4th May 2012

Letting Go to Get What You Want

Over the past few months I recognized that in spite of trying very hard to get my life back on track, I was still being bombarded with far too many major hurdles. Since I was attempting to instigate a building project, I was expecting things to be difficult – after all, they always are with building. The trouble was, I was having major difficulties that were outside the norm, and totally from left field.

So, anticipating the arrival of a new member of my family, I decided to step back from my life for a bit and just immerse myself in enjoying this new little person in my life. After 6 weeks of sheer happiness, I realized I had to return to the tatters of my life and pick up the threads again. But what to do now?

Firstly, I recognized that after a 2.5 year slog to get this project underway, it just didn’t seem to want to happen – was the Universe trying to tell me I wasn’t meant to be doing this? Finally, I decided to listen, and put a line through it…..at least for now.

I spent the next week reorganizing my energy – not my physical energy, which is always great – but my mental energy. I had tried everything else to get my life back on track, except let go. It seemed that the harder I tried, the greater I died. So I focused on my meditative yoga, on being grateful, on engaging in feeling loving towards myself and my life.

Aghh!!…sounds great, but I had a whole range of decisions to make. Major decisions. Stressful decisions.

Fortunately, I was financially okay to take the time to step back again, but I knew that I was slipping back financially way beyond my friends and family so I couldn’t rest there too long.  But getting stressed out was not going to help.

I decided to give myself a break. I set a plan that I would only make ONE major decision a week.

Week 1 – I must decide what to do about the building project – DONE

Week 2 – I will make the decision as to how i would rebuild my capital – DONE

Week 3 – I would decide where i would live for the next 3-5 years – DONE

Week 4 – I would purchase a new car [that was this week] – DONE

Week 5 – I will decide which of the many income earning opportunities I have that I will pursue

Week 6 – I will celebrate all my successes, then decide which decisions I need to make over the coming 6 weeks….and start all over again.

To start with it felt strange – how could I possibly make good progress just focusing on thing at a time. I normally have 4-5 balls in the air, having just one felt like a holiday – it no longer felt like work; I had the time to do the research, get out in the field and suss things out. It was actually FUN!!! It was important that I keep only my own counsel – as it seemed to be others that kept screwing up my life, and I was letting them have too much influence on my decisions. It doesn’t always pay to ask others for help.

THE RESULT  – Every week I have achieved my goal. These are major life decisions – but by tackling them one by one, and only giving myself ONE WEEK to make the decision was actually an achievable deadline because I DIDN’T HAVE ANYTHING ELSE I HAD TO THINK ABOUT.

It was sort of a freedom to think. I could free my mind to think of nothing else but that one goal.

And the funny thing is, that opportunities started falling into my lap. I would need some information that is not always freely available, and bang, next day there was an email for a free seminar, on just that top – that saved me a week of research right there. I would decide to do a short consulting project to get enough cash to live for the next 12 months, and got phoned to see if I was available for a 6 week project…and on and on.

This week was my ‘buy a car’ week – sure, I have been watching the market for a few months, and sifting out the options until i got down to at least ONE make and 2 models. It was now just doing a bit of research and seeking out the best car and offer available. Then,out of the blue, my son-in-law arrives in the country for a couple of days for work…….and he just happens to be an expert in BMW’s. I was tossing up between the economy of a 318i 4 cylinder or the power of the 320 6 cyclinder. Having driven a 6 cyl Mercedes most of my life, I resisted the thought of dropping down to a 4 cylinder, but my mothers little 318 really gets around nicely, and I hardly go beyond the city these days. I had previously looked at the 325i longingly, with its executive fitout, but it was out of my target price range, so hadn’t given it too much more attention. My son-in-law suggested I look again at the 325 as it was his previous car and he reckoned it was the best he had ever had [including the M3 he has now].

So I get back home and onto the car websites – and bang, a 325 that i had seen earlier in the week was just reduced $3000. Still a couple of thousand above my target price, but at that price it was worth a look, and it was worth the additional investment.

I decided next morning to phone the dealer, and if it was still there I would go down to take it for a spin, and if i liked it I wouldn’t even go to look at the other 5 cars I had on my list to view that day. It was….so I immediately got down there, went for a test drive, paid a deposit and booked in a pre-purchase check. Today, I drove that car home!!!

The message I am wanting to share here  is that when I stopped struggling, the struggling stopped. When I stepped back, instead of things not getting done, they seem to have got done faster than if I was intensely active working on every detail. In not trying to force things to happen, I somehow seemed to create room for things to come to me more easily. There are a whole raft of small things that have happened that I haven’t shared here, and it is only early days – but six weeks is a fair amount of time – and I am having one great opportunity come my way after another. New people, new business opportunities, new insights….

I have stopped planning every detail of what i need to do to achieve a goal – I decide what I want, by when, and then trust the Universe will deliver. I just need to be open and watchful for the opportunities when the arrive, and be willing to take action on them when they do. It’s what all the books on attraction talk about, but until now I couldn’t crack the code. Long may it last.

I have opened and raised my attraction energy. I am happier. I am receiving more. I am loving it!

Believe to Receive


P.S If you have a similar experience, please share it with us….it really helps raise the whole world’s energy.

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5th October 2010

Stay the Course

Once of the biggest reasons people are not successful is that they give up too early.

Being successful takes persistent effort, and that persistence comes from your own level of motivation. This is why it is important to work in something that you are passionate about. Tough times are the best times every for entrepreneurs.

So work this simple formula:

  1. Find your passion
  2. Build a great team of people
  3. Stay with it

And remember – Most people give up just before they make it big. You just have to outlast the pack to be amongst the best in your field.

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30th November 2008

Intention Driven Action

Have you ever noticed that when you really want something and you fully intend to have it or achieve it you feel stronger, more energetic. This is the difference between an intention and a ‘wish’.

Intention is driven by spiritual passion. It drives action. If you really want something it makes you feel physically and mentally stronger.

But you intentions can be blocked by your internal beliefs. For instance, if you don’t believe you deserve to prosper, your belief system will sabotage your intentions.

Your intentions are also guided by your destiny. When you are on the right path for YOUR destiny, you retain your energy and focus. When you turn from your destiny – your body feels suffocated.

If your actions feel comfortable, they are moving you forward towards your goals. If you feel stiffled or depressed, you are likely moving away from your purpose.

Thus, you must control the messages being sent to your mind – make them mindful, not mindless. Whatever you want, without exception, is because you think you will feel better for having it. It’s not the money, car, person you want – its the feelings that you think you are oging to get that you want.

Recognise yourself as valuable.

Treat yourself as wonderful.

Act as valuable.

Receive as Valuable

In this way, you train the world how to treat you.

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25th November 2008

Leverage Connected Energy

We are all connected – our hopes and dreams are reflected back in each others eyes. We cannot reach our destiny alone, because our destiny is joined to that of others.

We sometimes feel alone in our struggles to achieve our goals and can be quite hard on ourselves when things don’t turn out as planned. However, we must remember that our journey is never done in solitude. Every action we take impacts someone else, regardless of how unaware we are of that impact. Our words and actions may inspire someone to follow, our choices reflect the knowledge we have collected from others.

No matter what your path – there is most likely someone who has trodden it before you. The energy they leave behind for you to reap is in their knowledge and wisdom to help your journey just that much easier than those before you. And your contributions make it easier for those whom follow.

The message is to not try to do it alone – tap into the collective wisdom there for all to share. Never before have we been so priviledged to have knowledge at our fingertips, in our homes 24×7.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help – it does not lessen the magnitude of your success, it just makes you wiser.

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13th August 2008

Our Greatest Fear

Often we believe we fear failure, when in reality we fear success. This poem by Marianne Williamson from her book A Return to Love was worth sharing:

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

So just why is it that other people make us feel unacceptable for succeeding – and we join in by responding in kind.

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11th February 2008

The Quick Secret To Success

By now most of us have read ‘The Secret’ or the originating book ‘The Science of Getting Rich’. It is easy to read something inspirational such as The Secret,  practice the teachings for a couple of weeks, then leave it behind you……and then wonder why your life is just the same!

If this sounds like you, perhaps the quick takeaway notes below that I made of The Secret may provide you with a quick cheat sheet to prompt you:


ASK ONLY once, then trust it is coming. Start seeking your ‘request’ acting as if it is already in existence.

VISUALISE – Really feel the reality of your ideal through visualisation. Visualise living your ideal every day. When you have an inspired thought – trust it, act on it.

FOCUS – Deal with doubts by dismissing them – then say to yourself “ I know I am receiving now”. Focus on abundant wealth – NEVER SAY “I Can’t Afford It” – instead, focus on having more than enough. Don’t let others talk about their ills or problems to you – Change the subject.Say to yourself – “Money Comes Easily and Frequently”.



PURPOSE – Your purpose in life is the one you write for yourself.


  1. Start every day with 100 thank you’s…..”I am so happy and grateful now that _________________”.
  2. Do daily visualisation with movement.
  3. Other affirmations:

“I have more than enough”

“Money loves me and I love it, so it comes to me easily”

“I think perfect thoughts, I see only perfection. I am perfection”

“I feel wonderful, I feel good”

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8th July 2007

What Is Success Anyway?

I was rereading some previous blogs on success and it prompted me to reconsider what ‘success’ really means. To some, success is achieving your goals. To others, it’s being happy when you do.

So often we define success in terms of what society or someone else regards as success – a great job, good marriage, healthy secure family, financial security…….

But in my mind, these things are only success to you, if they are what you genuinely desire with all your heart. There are two aspects of achieving success:

  1. Defining your success goals
  2. Defining your path to reach those goals.

For instance, if  one of your goals is to have $5million. You can take an honest path, a dishonest path, a manual laboring path or a strategic intellectual path. There are also costs associated with each path. Do you achieve this in 10 years at the cost of other goals such as relationship and health; or are you willing to take a little longer and build on other goals at the same time.

We each must make our own decisions. After a number of ‘life crashes’ – whilst in the eyes of most people I am extremely successful; I don’t share their view. Sure I may be hard on myself, but I couldn’t reconcile what I had to show for the effort I had put in. I made some very bad mistakes in trusting other people, and have paid a very heavy price, both in financial terms and my willingness to allow others control over my financial assets again.

So I have changed my path – instead of expecting to retire in 2 years – I have just taken two years off to pursue some personal passions. This has cost my business quite a lot in terms of loss of market momentum; hence it will now take me at least 5 years to achieve what I would have in those two years. But I decided to take some of my ‘retirement’ years in advance. I am not sure that I want to retire anyway – what is that really all about. As I am many years from the standard retirement age, it is hard for me to understand what I may feel at that age. So my goal is not to retire at any particular age – but it is to have the option to retire at any time after a particular age. These subleties in definition make all the difference to how we approach our goals. So what is your personal success definition?


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9th March 2007

Success – what does it mean to you?

Have you ever stopped to think about the concept of success; just what really is it.  Success is such a highly subjective term that it is difficult to define in definite terms. The closest one can hope to come, is coining it as a concept.

To many success is getting what you want – whether that be a great job, money, health, happiness or love. But most of those who have been successful, would probably rephrase it to state success in terms of wanting what you get.

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